#actuallyautistic

@jeffowski@mastodon.world · 6d ago

#ActuallyAutistic #cptsd #trauma #anxiety #depression #mentalillness #mentalhealth #masking #HighFunctioning #Autism #autistic

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SleepyCatten (referred for ME/CFS, but it's probably P-HSD arc)

@SleepyCatten@cultofshiv.wtf · May 07, 2026

Sharing another impactful video from AuDHD Hub that really hits close to home 🥺

Burnout in Autism And ADHD (Why “Just Try Harder” Was Never The Answer Link has been x.jort.link-ed to hide the thumbnail image for eye contact reasons. We'll paste the transcript in a post below. #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #neurodivergent #neurodivergence #neurospicy #neurospiciness #AuDHDHub

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Sean C.

@filmfreak75@mastodon.social · May 06, 2026

@autistics@fedigroups.social #ActuallyAutistic one of the (allistic run) affinity groups at work has started posting employer job ads in their Mutual Aid channel and it feels inappropriate to me for some reason. the channel defines itself as a place to: • Share requests for mutual aid or community support • Offer help, resources, or solidarity • Ask for information related to navigating difficult situations • Signal support or check in on one another

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K.J. Elphinstone

@KatyElphinstone@mas.to · May 06, 2026

Anyone still wanting a reason to not do shitty things? 😂 #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic #adhd #Neurodivergent

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Pablo Tabula Rasa

@setmeravelles@lgbtqia.space · May 05, 2026

If you can’t handle me at my autistic meltdown, you don’t get to see me at my autistic joy. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

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@setmeravelles@lgbtqia.space · May 05, 2026

Realising the judgmental tone of how neurotypical boomers speak (or write online) is a major trigger for anxiety and meltdowns. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

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@undefined_variable@mementomori.social · May 05, 2026

There's so many times I start to reply to a toot, just to realize there is no possible way I can legibly convey what I actually want to say in this space, even with the 10k characters my instance generously provides. So I just close the reply and die a teensy bit inside. #ActuallyAutistic

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Kaja

@KaCi@autistics.life · May 05, 2026

Why is it so difficult for autistic people to find friends and partners? I read some post about this during the last days and here are my thoughts on the topic. The short answer is that it not because there’s something wrong with us. It’s because we are a minority group, we are very different from each other and have limited options to find each other. These factors are strongly intertwined. Yes, we are not perfect, unresolved trauma, masking and internalized ableism play a role and we all have to work on it. But at a certain point we cannot do this work on our own, we need other people to practice what we learned, to create new data for our nervous system and if we do not have these people, we are trapped in a vicious circle of burnout and loneliness. This brings me to the second point, our limited options. Many of the autistic people around my age (I am in my 40s) who are similar to me, are probably also in a similar situation. They are either trapped in poverty or a relationship they don’t want to be in. They do not live, where they want to live, they are not able to travel or even leave the house for longer than an hour. Many of them don´t even know that they are autistic. So, there are limited options to meet each other. I go outside with Beagle Lumi every day, but in my conservative neighborhood, I won’t find my people. I can get along with them, but they are not my people. And online? Dating apps are overwhelming asf and the autistic people similar to me will think that too, so I won’t find my people there. Realistically, I have the best chances to find my people here on Mastodon. But most of us have rejection sensitivity and are so burnt out, that reaching out to a new person is not an easy thing. We do not have the energy for it. Then there are our differences. We experience the world intensively, we didn’t go to an autistic kindergarten, nobody explained to us how to cope with this world. As a consequence, we are not only very different concerning our needs and special interests, but we are also very different in our coping strategies. During the last years I had several chats, friendships, even intimate relationships with other AuDHD people online. Most of them were not suitable for a long-term relationship, because of our differences or difficult circumstances and that’s ok. But they were enriching my life, they made me grow, they were inspiring and validating. Realizing that you are not a good fit can be hurtful and frustrating, getting to know new people takes a lot of energy and we are already low on energy. But it’s amazing how much energy connecting with another AuDHD person can give you, it made me and the people I connected with feel decades younger and so happy. I found the best friend one could wish for here on Mastodon. So, I will continue to write these posts, encouraging people to chat with me and I do not feel ashamed for it. I am done with feeling shame for having to deal with being a multiply marginalized person in unconventional ways. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #neurodivergent @autistics@fedigroups.social

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AudhdDespiteNoisyAbleism 🇨🇦

@adelinej@piaille.fr · May 04, 2026

@iamada@tech.lgbt I forgot to mention this wonderful ressource about self diagnostic by @alice@lgbtqia.space https://codeberg.org/alicewatson/asd-self-dx/ #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

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@janneke@todon.nl · May 04, 2026

@stux@mstdn.social Oh! You're right! I never realized that we only remember (we're only supposed to remember) /Dutch/ casualties. How interesting that I got this wrong all this time. Thinking that casualties of other nationalities would als be worth remembering. Silly me! #actuallyautistic

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@undefined_variable@mementomori.social · May 03, 2026

This tingled my autisenses straight away. Isn't this the experience we have? “There was a time when academia was society’s refuge for the eccentric, brilliant, and impractical. No longer. It is now the domain of professional self-marketers. As for the eccentric, brilliant, and impractical: it would seem society now has no place for them at all.” ― David Graeber, The Utopia of Rules I'd say the early-IT was like that too, you could be an impractical eccentric and fit right in. A lot of eccentric, impractical autists there for sure. (Though now that I think of it, I guess early-IT was usually in academia, though that was not the case for me when I successfully worked in the field for a bit, before it all went into shit and I got burnt out from the game.) #ActuallyAutistic

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Arthur

@autismunicorn@autistics.life · May 02, 2026

Sometimes I wonder what’s wrong with me that I have such a hard time finding a romantic relationship. I’m tall, intelligent, and have an average appearance and figure – in that regard, I don’t think there’s anything terrible about me that would significantly disqualify me. And then there are plenty of other people who are more or less attractive and intelligent, more or less good and decent, and yet they have no trouble with relationships. I really don’t know where the problem lies, but this situation is very frustrating. #ActuallyAutistic

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@adelinej@piaille.fr · Apr 30, 2026

Dear autistic community how do you deal, if you are able to deal with it, anticipation anxiety? I had a ressource about that with suggestions but I can’t find it anymore. I am talking only about our anticipation anxiety and NOT the kind experienced by non autistic people. If you don’t know what I’m talking about check this blog post from one of us describing one example. The author describes what it looked like when they were in a school environnement. https://jeffsnyderautismneurodiversityselfadvocate.wordpress.com/2025/01/16/blog-503-anticipation-anxiety/ #ActuallyAutistic #autism @autistics@fedigroups.social

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Kevin Davy

@pathfinder@beige.party · Apr 29, 2026

@autistics@fedigroups.social A number of different conversations on here recently has prompted me to remember something. When I was a teenager we had a next door neighbour who was in her 90's and still lived alone. Sometimes people would comment on how great it was that she could still be independent at her age and I would always completely agree. Despite knowing that, Long before home deliveries, I did her shopping every week and picked up her prescriptions. My mother would help her with any official correspondence that needed replying to and any phone calls that she needed to be made, (mostly because the old dear was profoundly hard of hearing.) Another neighbour took her to church every week and to any appointments she had. A friend from church looked after her garden and another one would do any DIY jobs, or heavy lifting that needed doing. And yet, everyone still saw her as living independently and this is because independence has always been health and age related and by those standards she did. And because hardly anyone lives truly independently of everyone else. There is always occasional and more than occasional food, or help, or just someone you can call on, whether that be a neighbour, or friend, or relative, for baby sitting, or lifts, or whatever. Independence as an absolute doesn't really exist, and hardly anyone views it that way. Except, perhaps, us. I don't know whether it is our tendency towards black or white thinking, or perhaps the perfectionism we often view things by. But for many of us, and perhaps more so for those of us realising we're autistic later in life, the trap of viewing our desire and need for independence by the absolute standard of all or nothing, is something that we are only too prone to fall into. And then, of course, end up wondering why we can't live that way and blaming ourselves accordingly. #Autism #ActuallyAutistic

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Church of Jeff

@jeffowski@mastodon.world · Apr 27, 2026

#ActuallyAutistic #neurodivergent #autistic #autism #AuDHD

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🔥Cassandra🔥

@Cassandra@ottawa.place · Apr 26, 2026

So excited about a food option I just remembered exists that I started clapping. #ActuallyAutistic

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your auntifa liza 🇵🇷 🦛 🦦

@blogdiva@mastodon.social · Apr 01, 2024

SO IT’S #Autism Awareness Month?

since am one of those #ActuallyAutistic people Dx at the tender age of 50 (yes, 50. and yes am older now, shut up), am not acquainted with the american rituals of national days or awareness months involving autism.

welp, let me do this as a gentle reminder:

BLACK
INDIGENOUS
PUERTO RICAN
CARIBBEAN
LATINOAMERICANES
WOMEN

can be #autistic too.

and in my case: #dyslexic with a sprinkling of good ol’ extra spicy #ADHD.

but ironically, 🧵

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Nerdfallmanagement

@nerdfall@social.tchncs.de · Apr 25, 2026

Ist es gerade #Mode , in ein fachliches größeres #Meeting einzusteigen mit „Wie ist dein Energielevel gerade?“ „Wie fühlst du dich?“ „Wie bist du hier?“ (Ich dachte, das #Verkehrsmittel sei gemeint, nein, es ging um‘s Befinden.) Ich hatte so Termine 3x diese Woche und fand es furchtbar.Ich hab mir angewöhnt immer nur „okay“ zu sagen. Für eine ehrliche Antwort müsste ich mehr als 1 Minute nachdenken, bräuchte Messwerte, sie würde alles abwägen und wäre entsprechend zeitraubend. Außerdem würde es eh niemand interessieren und auch nix angehen. Im Übrigen bin ich gekommen, um ein #IT Problem zu lösen, nicht Befindlichkeiten zu diskutieren. Und Menschen werden dadurch zum #lugen genötigt. Wer sagt schon „schlecht“ bei sowas?. #ActuallyAutistic #buro

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